I totally agree! Don't know what the big secret is? Now that I know a little about you, I'm sending some info on myself. I was born Susan Anne Kolodziej on 3-8-45 in Manhatten, N.Y. My biological mother never told my biological father about me. I was placed at Spence-Chapin, N.Y. at 7 months old & adopted at 17 months old. I believe my biological mother is Franciska Helen Kolodziej Laurila. From my 1C/half niece Franciska is her grandmother. Have been unable to find a marriage date for Franciska to William John Laurila. I have asked my 1c/half niece a few questions which she has not answered. So it goes. Waiting for birth records to be opened in 2020---hopefully!